She had some bleeding early on and even some contractions. They discovered her placenta was very low lying so they decided to keep a very close eye on it, but basically said there was nothing they could do. She took it easy and they started doing weekly ultrasounds.
During those ultrasounds they discovered the baby has a health problem. The baby’s kidneys are dilated. They’ve been dilated (enlarged) the entire time. The left kidney is smaller than the right, the right is three times the size it should be at this point. They’ve consulted pediatric urologists in Denver and they believe the kidney will return to normal size after birth but they have warned us the baby will most likely have permanent damage on the right side. We won’t know the extent of the problem until after the baby is born. So, we just have no idea what we will be dealing with and the baby may have to be flown to Denver for treatment.
She’s at 40 weeks by dates and they’ve decided to induce her before the baby gets any bigger so she will hopefully still be able to deliver naturally and safely.
Adding to all of this, (and I’m going to make a VERY long story, short,partly because it’s not my story to tell in full and partly because I am tired and need to get to bed) my sister-in-law’s mother has apparently suffered a mental breakdown, last Fall she decided she hates my sister-in-law and her brothers (two of them) for atrocities they committed when they were young. Among those atrocities? Crying during teething… She has an entire book for each kid, detailing each and every thing they’ve ever done to wrong her in their lives and she wants nothing to do with them ever again, she won’t get help and her husband is enabling her illness by not helping her to face it and get some kind of help. In essence, my sister-in-law lost both of her parents that day. About two months ago her mother realized the baby’s due date was drawing near. We live in a small town, many people know her and know us and know the situation. So, in an attempt to save face she decided to start calling my sister-in-law, showing up, and acting like nothing ever happened. Not so easy a thing for my sister-in-law to do unfortunately. She doesn’t want her there tomorrow, she doesn’t want to see or speak to her, she can’t deal with the ups and downs along with everything else she’s dealing with. So, no one outside of my family knows the baby is coming tomorrow, including her brothers. It’s a sad, sad, situation and I am praying her mom doesn’t find out and show up at the hospital to make things worse. My sister-in-law honestly can’t take any more stress nor can my brother and I’m afraid it could get very stressful and my sister-in-law will get hurt again, so for everyone’s sakes, I hope she takes the hint when she doesn’t get the call, and doesn’t show up.
So, my tackle for tomorrow is to be there to hold my sister-in-law’s hand and keep my brother calm, to fetch ice chips, to pray, and to do whatever else is necessary to help my new niece/nephew enter the world.
Check back tomorrow evening and I’ll hopefully have a picture to post of our healthy, happy, new addition to our family!